Talk Dirty to Me

Language is a sensual tool. Few things arouse like a large vocabulary. Yet, even the most educated indulge in naughty wordplay. The lead character in my WIP insists on always speaking with the grace of a lady. Determined to change that, her devilish beau threatens that, once permitted to ravish her, she should prepare herself for the passion he’ll unleash on her “and the league of obscenities that follow.” Now, there’s a man who understands the value in your next 52 Love lesson: titillating with your tongue.

Sapiosexual or not, a great way to show love is to make your partner feel desired. And public dirty talk does more than show love; it improves your sex life. By public, I don’t mean for you to make announcements. No need to broadcast your intimacy. Rather, in between mingling at your next social gathering, lean in close and whisper your sweet somethings within the public setting. Repeated throughout the evening, your covert acts will provide the thrill of getting away with something right under people’s noses and stimulate your partner on a deeper level.

Whispering feels important. Not only are you putting your mouth close to your partner’s ear, you’re speaking words for her alone. The soft tickle of your breath travels through every nerve and tingles body parts to attention.

Not sure what to say? When in doubt, stick with the basics. Tell her what you like about what she’s done in the past and how you plan to pleasure her in the future. What do you want to do to her? Where and how do you want to do it?

Use these starter phrases if you’re new to dirty talk. As you pass by your partner from one mini crowd to the next, take her aside and say, “The way you look in that dress has me crazy,” or “I can’t get enough of you. When we get home, I’m going to____!”

Feeling more confident? Let her know how her appearance is affecting your body or that you love the way she tastes. Lick the tip of her ear to remind her how your tongue feels. Then threaten to have your way with her right there at your event. Ask her, “What if I just bent you over the counter right now?” Or tell her how you’d like to slam her against the nearest wall and take her in front of all those people.

Make it clear that you can’t stop thinking about her. Catch her eye from across the room, raise one brow, and pretend to say your next temptation. Mouth your phone number or some other innocent tidbit to avoid getting caught by champion lip readers. The important thing is that even from a distance, you’re fueling future fires.

By the end of the night, make promises no mortal could deliver. “I’m going to make you scream enough to scare the neighbors.” Even if you don’t follow through, these frequent teases are enough to have her drag you into the bedroom the second you get home and inspire the delectable details in your next round of public dirty talk.

If you try this intimacy tip or have a better recommendation, let me know in the comments. For weekly suggestions on how to show your partner love, sign up for my blog, 52 Love, in the sidebar.  (This post was updated since its original publication on March 4, 2019.)